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  • Lynne’s Reading Corner November 25, 2014
    Before I was a writer, I was a reader. (Still am) I devour a book a week, minimum, usually more. This month, the book I’m most looking forward to reading is The Best Kind of Love by Kerri Carpenter. It’s a small-town contemporary I had the chance to read in draft form, and I can’t wait. It comesRead more...
  • Thanksgiving 2014 November 24, 2014
    This will be the first year not going to Miami. Instead we are heading up to New York City to see the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade. We have no plans for a turkey dinner on Thursday and Mr. Silver keeps joking that we’ll eat at the $0.99 pizza place. Um, no thank you, but myRead more...
  • Washington Loves Readers Luncheon October 25, 2014
    As you know (or not), I chaired the first ever Washington Loves Reader’s luncheon on October 11, 2014 along with author, Kimberly Kincaid. It basically meant I got to pick the lunch menu and assign seats. {Rubs hands mad with power} 40 authors showed up to wine and dine the readers, and well, when you getRead more...

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Get it Together Tuesday: Always in the Mood

I have a sinus infection today. Well, really I’ve had one for at least week. So between the headache, achiness, not to mention the sore muscles from raking a bazillion leaves in my yard, I’m kinda a grouch. Okay, a bitch, I can say it.
So when my husband got home from his work trip and tried to get amorous at nearly midnight, I was less than receptivve. Okay you can say it, I was a bitch.

Off the top of my head, I can’t think of a romance heroine who has been bitchy when it comes to sex. They always seem to want it. Kidnapped by demons then rescued? Let’s jump in the sack to celebrate!

Scorned by the high society and captured by a highwayman on the way home from the ball? Oh darling, do me now.

Bank foreclosed on your farm and your long lost sister’s baby showed up on your doorstep? Let’s go roll in the hay!

I’m guilty of this too in my books. My heroines never have headaches, menstruate, or hormonal shifts that make them plain not in the mood. Why? Is it because as readers we love the ideal of always ready, always orgasmic sex? My friend, sexpert, Dr. Debby Herbenick, would tell you reality it takes a moment to get in the mood, and sometimes you just won’t get there. Romance readers know it, but we want to read about uber sexual females always ready for it.

And don’t get me started on the perpetually erect heroes.

Are we doing our sex lives a disservice by portraying sex like this. Or is it a good thing that often inspires a little needed spark in the bedroom?