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  • 5 Reasons to participate in an anthology/Box set August 20, 2014
    I’ve said it before, this summer is the summer of the box set. Some authors hit some big best seller lists and loads of authors are jumping on the bandwagon hoping to replicate their success. I’m one of them. In fact, I was asked to participate in no less than 3 sets in one weekRead more...
  • Gender Reveal parties July 25, 2014
    I’m hearing about this new trend in the baby world: the gender reveal party. What happens is the doctor or sonogram tech writes the gender in a sealed envelope which is then delivered to a baker. The baker then bakes either a pink or blue cake with neutral frosting. Then a reveal party is hostedRead more...
  • Songs of Summer July 22, 2014
    It happens every summer. An ear worm hits the airwaves and it’s in your head all summer. Some I like, some I could live without. (Remember the summer of Gangam style). This summer, I’m humming along to Imagine Dragons, On Top of the World, Fancy by Iggy Azalea, and I could live without Happy byRead more...

Posts filed under:  Ready for it

Get it Together Tuesday: Always in the Mood

I have a sinus infection today. Well, really I’ve had one for at least week. So between the headache, achiness, not to mention the sore muscles from raking a bazillion leaves in my yard, I’m kinda a grouch. Okay, a bitch, I can say it.
So when my husband got home from his work trip and tried to get amorous at nearly midnight, I was less than receptivve. Okay you can say it, I was a bitch.

Off the top of my head, I can’t think of a romance heroine who has been bitchy when it comes to sex. They always seem to want it. Kidnapped by demons then rescued? Let’s jump in the sack to celebrate!

Scorned by the high society and captured by a highwayman on the way home from the ball? Oh darling, do me now.

Bank foreclosed on your farm and your long lost sister’s baby showed up on your doorstep? Let’s go roll in the hay!

I’m guilty of this too in my books. My heroines never have headaches, menstruate, or hormonal shifts that make them plain not in the mood. Why? Is it because as readers we love the ideal of always ready, always orgasmic sex? My friend, sexpert, Dr. Debby Herbenick, would tell you reality it takes a moment to get in the mood, and sometimes you just won’t get there. Romance readers know it, but we want to read about uber sexual females always ready for it.

And don’t get me started on the perpetually erect heroes.

Are we doing our sex lives a disservice by portraying sex like this. Or is it a good thing that often inspires a little needed spark in the bedroom?